Media Update – November 12, 2007

1. Sex school? Class dismissed
2. Forget the Pulitzers — 'The Sexies' Want Your Best Work
3. Sex Toys 101
4. Loyola University pulls student mag's sex issue
5. Sex-Related Injuries
6. A Different Sort of Ball
7. Cheap date — what to do?
8. The Pleasures and Dangers of Bondage
9. Bob Shell apologizes for photos, not death
10. The Sex Police




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Sex school? Class dismissed:
Gallery proprietor plans to challenge eviction notice over kinky seminars
by Joseph A. Gambardello
The Philadelphia Inquirer
November 10, 2007

A Rittenhouse Square co-op board is terminating the lease of an art gallery
that is staging a show called Red Hot and featuring seminars on such subjects
as Basic Bondage and Spanking 101.

Perry Milou, who operates Galleria 1903 at 1903 Walnut Street and is one of the
exhibiting artists, said yesterday he plans to challenge the decision to end
his lease.

In a letter dated Nov. 6 and now displayed in a larger form in the window of
the gallery, the Rittenhouse Plaza Co-op Board gave Milou the required 90-day
notice that his lease would be terminated.

Stanton Oswald, the co-op board's president, did not immediately respond to
messages left at his office and home yesterday. But he told 6ABC this week it
was the seminars – not the art – that prompted the action.

"This is not what we lease the space for," he said. "This is not normal
activity for – quote – an art gallery."

Milou said the four-day show, which ends tomorrow, is a celebration of "love,
marriage and relationships."

He said that if he had staged a baseball art show featuring seminars by members
of the Phillies, he would not have received a termination letter.

"It's obvious that there is discrimination of people's sexual preference going
on here, there's discrimination of the erotic art," he said.


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Forget the Pulitzers — 'The Sexies' Want Your Best Work
by Joe Strupp
Editor & Publisher
November 8, 2007

NEW YORK – They will probably not get the prestige of the Pulitzer Prizes, but
the new Sex-Positive Journalism Awards, which announced a call for entries this
week, may well tap into a news criteria unacknowledged in the past.

The creation of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, the Center for Sex
and Culture, "Babeland," and journalist Miriam Axel-Lute, the awards seek to
"promote fair, accurate, and non-sensationalized coverage of sexual topics,"
according to a release that dubs the prizes, of course, "The Sexies."

"To hear some people tell it, all of 'the media' is a degenerate, sex-drenched
affair. But although there's plenty of talk about the sex lives of celebrities
and a willingness to use a scandal to sell a paper, when you get into the
content of actual news stories, things often take a turn for the Puritanical:
Soccer moms' fabricated allegations about kids being exposed to nudity in a
hotel hosting a swingers conference get printed as fact and never retracted,"
the release states. "Religious minorities are assumed to speak for all
religious Americans, or even all Americans, when it comes to whether
"abstinence" should be the teen sex-ed gold standard. Usual standards of
fairness and objectivity fall prey to reporters and editors' squeamishness."

Organizers are asking potential entrants to submit their nominations at

"For the past decade, the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom has dealt with
media reports that include sensationalized and false information about sexual
issues," says Susan Wright, NCSF spokesperson. "These articles cause harm by
encouraging discrimination and persecution of adults who engage in consensual
sexual expression. NCSF is proud to support the Sexies and sex-positive
journalism in America."

Winners will be chosen by a group of judges that include syndicated columnist
Dan Savage; Carol Queen, PhD; Liza Featherstone, journalist and author of "Sex,
Lies, and Women's Magazines"; Jack Hafferkamp, a former journalist, journalism
professor and co-editor/publisher of LIBIDO: The Journal of Sex and
Sensibility; Judith Levine, journalist and author of the award-winning "Harmful
to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex"; Doug Henwood,
contributing editor to The Nation; Marty Klein, PhD, certified sex therapist
and author of "America's War on Sex"; and Claire Cavanah, an activist, writer,
speaker, and educator in human sexuality and a founder of

The Sexies will be given for articles in four categories: news, feature,
opinion, and "unsexy." The first three categories have four divisions each:
daily newspaper, weekly or biweekly newspaper, online news publication, and
sex- or sexual orientation-themed news publication (any print medium).


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Sex Toys 101
by Lucy Moore (opinion column)
Student Life (Washington University in St. Louis)
November 6, 2007

While browsing the Internet, you might ask yourself if you have checked
Facebook in the last twenty minutes or if you have visited 'I Can Has
Cheezburger' to your satisfaction. Or, alternatively, you might ask yourself,
"Is a vibrating penis ring what I need?" In the event that you find yourself
shopping for sex toys, there are a few things you need to know.

Sex toys are not necessary to have pleasurable sex. But if you're interested in
enhancing pleasure, toys and other sex aids can be useful. There are several
categories to choose from. At a basic level, you have your male pleasure,
female pleasure, and co-ed pleasure toys. There are toys for any level along
the BDSM spectrum (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and
Masochism). There are also toys that enhance lubrication, heighten arousal
points such as nipples and provide tickling sensations.

Interested in exploring sex toys? My recommendations are to try a small ribbed
silicone vibrator for clitoral stimulation during sex, sensual massage oil
(like Victoria's Secret's Mood in Succulent) for lubrication, warming and other
foreplay, and/or the traditional set of handcuffs for role-playing or light
domination (just don't lose the key!).


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Loyola University pulls student mag's sex issue:
'PORNOGRAPHIC' | Nude drawings too much for Jesuit school
by Dave Newbart
Chicago Sun-Times
November 4, 2007

On the front cover of the recent issue of Diminuendo, Loyola University's
student literary magazine, a pencil drawing depicts the body of a woman wearing
nothing but electrical tape on her nipples, straps across her body and panties
with the word "slut'' on them.

Inside the magazine, another drawing shows a nude woman in high heels
penetrated from behind by a naked man.

The student editors chose the pictures to illustrate their recent issue devoted
to the topic of sex, which they said was a taboo topic at the Jesuit school.

But the issue caused such a firestorm that the religious leaders of the school
ordered the magazine pulled from news racks across campus — something
officials say they've never before done to a student publication.

Members of the largely female staff of Diminuendo defended their decisions to
publish the images — which also included a variety of poems, essays and other
pictures — even though they knew they were pushing the envelope.

"We were just talking about sex,'' said editor in chief Bre Kidman, 19, of
Rhode Island.

Both sides accuse the other of disrespecting Jesuit values: [Rev. Richard]
Salmi, [Loyola's vice president for student affairs] said the drawings don't
show "dignity and respect for others,'' while editors question whether the
school is limiting free and open discussion.

Before editors decided to devote three of this year's issues to the separate
topics of sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll, Kidman said she wasn't sure most
students even knew her quarterly literary magazine existed. It operates from a
cramped room in the basement of the student union on $7,500 from the student
activity fund.

They received 60 submissions to publish in the 32-page, black-and-white glossy.
Student Ashley Davis submitted five drawings, including the one that ended up
on the front cover, another showing the back of a woman's body in a dominatrix
outfit and the picture of the couple having sex. Two other drawings she
submitted — including one depicting oral sex — were rejected for publication.

Davis, 19, an international studies major from Portage, Ind., admitted she
"wanted to spark controversy'' because "so many people are afraid to talk about
sex.'' She said the underwear worn by the woman on the cover was something she
has seen for sale at mainstream shops.

"I don't think of slut as a degrading term,'' she said. "It's someone who
enjoys their sexuality.'' She said the art depicted women engaged in consensual
sex and also in a position of power."

The uproar, she said Friday, "is a little ridiculous.''

"Labeling the woman a 'slut' as the cover does, I think, demeans women,'' said
Salmi, who years ago worked as a domestic violence counselor. "I personally
feel that these kinds of images lead oftentimes to abuse.''


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Sex-Related Injuries
by Katherine Oyster
Manitou Messenger (St. Olaf's College, MN)
November 2, 2007

One of the best things about sexual activity is that it is very physical. Sex
quickens the heart rate, increases breathing and, if done vigorously enough,
can actually be considered a form of cardiovascular exercise. However, like any
other contact sport, what makes sex fun also makes it dangerous.

Allow me to introduce a new term to the St. Olaf Campus – sex-related
injury (SRI). An SRI is a specific malady that is an instant and obvious
effect of nookie. SRIs can range from the mundane to the meriting of an ER
visit. They are also always fun and awkward to explain.

SRIs are nothing to be ashamed of. They can occur for a multitude of
reasons: you experimented with a position that didn't work, you or your
partner are inexperienced at sex, you and your partner are into S&M
(sadism and masochism for those of you playing the home game) or you were
just too caught up in the moment to notice risky sex behavior. Do not
assume that you suck at life or in bed because of an SRI – anyone who
plays the game chances an injury. Think about how many injuries or
maladies you see on different Ole's bodies throughout the day – I
guarantee that at least some of them are SRIs.

So, the next time you encounter an SRI on another, be as sensitive,
understanding and non-judgmental about it as you can. It's simply luck of
the sexual draw. And your own number might be up sooner than you think.


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A Different Sort of Ball:
Alternative music, lifestyles explored in leather and latex
by Kurt Brighton
Fort Collins Now (Colorado)
November 2, 2007

Leather and latex and spanking – oh my!

We're definitely not in Kansas anymore, Dorothy. In fact, conservative Sen. Sam
Brownback of the Sunflower State would probably have a heart attack on the spot
if he saw what was going on at the Fetish Ball, the latest incarnation of which
is taking place at Club Osiris on Sunday, Oct. 28.

The ball is at 9 p.m. at the Fort Collins club, 2649 E. Mulberry St.

The event is a celebration of various alternative lifestyles, featuring
darkwave goth/industrial DJs spinning their happy-go-lucky music and several
wandering dominatrixes plying their trade. Sunday's event will also include a
demonstration of shibari, a form of traditional Japanese rope bondage. And
although the show promises to bring out all sorts of costumed leather and latex
enthusiasts, organizers say that it's also about educating and enlightening
those of us who aren't quite ready to don a leather corset – at least not yet.

"We have a very diverse crowd at these events", said Sarah, an organizer who
declined to give her last name due to family and job concerns. "Some people
participate, others just observe, some people dress up, where others dress
casual. Either way, everyone is welcome".

In addition to making even the, er, under dressed feel welcome, the show's
performer-participants are also careful about just how much they include
newbies in the evening's festivities. Mistress Jae is one of the dominatrixes
who will be attending, and she said she gets volunteers at every show who want
to try a little spanking.

Jae won last year's Miss World Leather title – sort of a darker version of Miss
America for leather enthusiastsband she spends much of her time traveling
around the country to appear at various events like the Fort Collins Fetish
Ball. But in addition to providing a bit of safe titillation for gawkers and
leather fans alike, she said her mission is mainly to educate people about
alternative lifestyles.

"It's about being an activist and helping young adults learn about alternative
lifestyles", she said. "I'm out there demonstrating techniques, and showing
that it's fun. Traditionally it's been people in their '30s, '40s and '50s
getting into the lifestyle. Now, though, we have younger people getting into
it, and I want to help them find out what resources are available out there,
and show them ways to be safe".

Even if you're pretty sure that spanking and leather aren't for you, the Fetish
Ball is a way to check out what normally goes on behind closed doors in a fun,
safe environment. Besides, as Mistress Jae might say, how can you know won't
enjoy it if you don't try it?


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Cheap date — what to do?
by Jocelyn Voo
November 2, 2007

Anna Hake, 24, and her boyfriend were hunting for some interesting — and
inexpensive — ways to spend time together. Their solution: making a date to
attend the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco, touted as the world's largest
showcase for S&M products and culture.

"We walked by a table with floggers and whips on it, and the guy running the
booth encouraged us to give it a try," says Hake, a nonprofit organization
program coordinator who lives in San Francisco. "We both looked at each other
and were, like, 'When in Rome…' "

Though the couple decided it ultimately wasn't for them, the experience was

"We may not be into bondage," Hake says, "but it was good for bonding."

And all it cost was a small donation that benefited local nonprofits.


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The Pleasures and Dangers of Bondage
by Tristan Taormino (opinion column "Pucker Up")
The Village Voice
October 29, 2007

Last week, the autopsy report was released for Rev. Gary Aldridge, who died in
June of accidental asphyxiation while engaged in self-bondage and autoerotic
asphyxiation. By now, you've probably heard something about the pastor of
Thorington Road Baptist Church in Montgomery, Alabama, who was a friend of
Jerry Falwell and was found dead in lots of rubber with a butt plug in his ass.

There have been plenty of blog entries about how he was yet another closeted,
kinky, conservative hypocrite who preached salvation but practiced sin. But in
reading the details – especially from the coroner's report – I was struck by
something else: Man, this guy was really into bondage. He was found alone
wearing two rubber wet suits, a face mask, a rubber head mask, rubber
underwear, diving gloves, and flippers; the various ways he was restrained seem
to indicate he was hogtied, which is difficult (but not impossible) to achieve
by yourself. He was definitely not a novice bondage fan.

So, it seems, he died doing something he loved. Some people put themselves in
bondage because that's their turn-on, but it's much more often a two- (or more)
person sport. I wonder if Reverend Aldridge did it by himself because he
couldn't bear the shame or potential exposure of sharing it with someone else.
If he could have found someone to share his kink with, he might still be alive.

When many people recall their first experience of bondage, it usually reaches
all the way back to childhood. As part of cops and robbers, cowboys and
Indians, or another kids' game, someone had to be restrained at some point.
You'd grab a necktie or a belt or something from one of your parents' closets
and tie up the bad guys. Some people look back on those experiences as fun
memories; bondage enthusiasts usually remember the first time they were tied up
(or tied someone else up) with a lot more detail and glee.

Browse a list of workshops at a BDSM event and you'll see just how popular and
varied bondage can be: rope bondage, suspension bondage, Japanese rope bondage,
metal bondage, bondage for sex, decorative bondage, creative bondage, head and
face bondage, genital bondage, hand and foot bondage, body harnesses, latex
bondage, and predicament bondage. Google the word "bondage" and you'll get
about 32 million links. According to Alexa, the kinky bondage site
(which is owned by has more traffic than


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Bob Shell apologizes for photos, not death
by Shawna Morrison
The Roanoke Times (Virginia)
October 27, 2007

RADFORD — The Bob Shell trial was different from the start, with bondage
photos displayed on the courtroom wall, a model dead of a morphine overdose,
and the stark reality that it was all happening right on Main Street.

The trial continued to have its moments as Shell was formally sentenced Friday
to 32 years and six months in prison — plus a $5,000 fine — in the accidental
2003 death of 19-year-old Marion Franklin.

Before Circuit Court Judge Joey Showalter imposed the jury-recommended
sentence, Shell, a photographer with an extended following, took the stand and
apologized — not for Franklin's death, but to anyone who may have been
offended by his erotic work. Some of that work was displayed in the form of
four hours' worth of sexually explicit videos during his August trial.

"I never would have wanted that material shown before a public forum in any
way," he said.

"Is that your biggest concern?" Commonwealth's Attorney Chris Rehak asked Shell
during cross-examination.

Shell also said he wanted to convey to Franklin's family how much he shares in
their grief over her death. If he'd realized how serious Franklin's drug
problem was, he said, he would have pushed harder for her to get treatment.

"He's not accepted responsibility," Rehak said after the hearing.


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The Sex Police:
An anti-porn crusader wants Kansas City juries to redefine what's obscene
by Justin Kendall
The Pitch (Kansas City, MO)
October 25, 2007

A post-lunch porn rush is under way at Hollywood at Home Movies and Magazines.
A few men ranging in age from late 20s to upper 60s pass by the new releases
and classics in the front of the Overland Park store. Over the course of an
hour on a Tuesday afternoon, men march up the stairs at the back of the store,
push through the see-through, baby-blue curtain and enter a tiny room dedicated
to adult magazines and videos. They browse the movie titles, flip through the
magazines and, eventually, drop $7 apiece to rent videos for four nights.

On September 25, a Johnson County grand jury indicted the video store on
misdemeanor criminal charges of promoting obscenity. The store's alleged crime
was renting out four allegedly obscene movies – Don't Kiss Me I'm Straight,
Hellcats 12, Anal Machines and Real Female Masturbation. A man who gave his
name as Sean O'Cleary rented the videos in late August and never returned them.
He had paid a $100 deposit and, later, called to tell the store that he'd
turned the films over to the grand jury.

The grand jury handed down 15 obscenity charges against the store and three
other Johnson County businesses. They're accused of renting out racy videos,
selling sex toys and displaying obnoxious Halloween costumes.

Johnson County isn't alone. Citizen petitions have forced grand juries to
convene throughout Kansas. This grassroots effort is the work of Phillip Cosby,
a Ned Flanders look-alike and anti-pornography crusader. The 56-year-old
retired Army master sergeant is the zealous leader of the Kansas City office of
the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families.

Cosby calls sex shops "an open sewer," "a moral cancer" and "a wicked
stronghold." He has cautioned that "a tsunami is hitting our community." He
blames the sex industry for causing rape and pedophilia. (Violent secondary
effects of porn consumption have been widely discredited.) He has even coined a
pet name for businesses that sell adult videos or sex toys: SOBs – an acronym
for "sexually oriented businesses."

The coalition's vision of community standards may not be representative of
Johnson County, as a trip to Hollywood at Home and the other accused stores
implies. Still, Cosby's Kansas City pornography jihad will serve as a test run
for the rest of America: If he successfully shuts down the metro area's porn
shops, the national office will wage similar holy wars with porn stores across
the nation.

But Cosby's efforts are toothless. The Kansas obscenity statute that Cosby
relies on has been ruled unconstitutional, and the stores he has targeted can
beat the charges – if they choose to fight.

Cosby's strategy is possible thanks to a Kansas law that allows any citizen to
convene a grand jury.

Cosby declined to discuss his strategy with The Pitch for this story, citing
the paper's "bent." "We're not really moving in the same direction," he said.
"I know you believe what you believe, and I believe what I believe, and I think
we're just not a good fit."

After the indictments were issued, Cosby claimed in news reports that law
enforcement officials were "breathing a sigh of relief" and referred to himself
and his followers as "the cavalry."

It's unclear whether law enforcement considers Cosby "the cavalry." Of the
dozens of stores that Cosby has targeted over the years, none has closed its


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